Hello Beautiful, I’m headed out to Newport beach for a day or two and wanted to touch base with you. Today I woke feeling exhausted and a bit overwhelmed. I looked in the mirror and said to myself “WOW… you look tired”!
To be honest with you this has happened several times over the past year and a half. After meditating here is the conclusion I came to. If it exhausts or confuses me… I don’t want it in my life. If it doesn’t show love, empathy and compassion, I don’t want it in my life.
I realized that lately I’ve been focusing on spending time with people who not only show empathy and compassion but who also desire to spend time with me too. Sounds easy right? Not so much.
In both relationships and friendships we need healthy boundaries. When we don’t have these healthy boundaries at least one person is suppressing their emotions. When this happens, the emotions generally flair up in the opposite person. Let me give you an example of this. Lets say one person isn’t getting their needs met in a relationship. Their partner is in and out of their life and unexpressive about the way they truly feel. Nine times out of ten the opposite partner will end up expressing themselves in a loud or out spoken way. The original partner then calls the partner “moody or crazy”. And then the cycle begins.
By saying out loud to myself If it exhausts or confuses me… I don’t want it in my life. I begin to turn away from what I know doesn’t hold love empathy and compassion for the relationship or me.
The bottom line is relationships are not about one person winning over the other. Relationships are about working together in order to grow spiritually together.
I Love you, Until tomorrow, Please love yourself