I’ve found that those who give with expectations cause themselves and others more stress than joy. They mar the act of giving, which makes the receiver feel guilty. they lead to disappointment if the person I helped doesn’t return the act of kindness; and they tie my intentions to an internal score card, which places a wedge in my relationships. A HUGE WEDGE OF BLAME AND SHAME!
Recently I’ve been asking myself, “What is my expectation?” before I do something for another person. Since I give as a caregiver and lover by
Unfortunately unless someone has “done their work”, human nature kicks in and dictates the “what’s in it for me attitude”. Sad but true! This blocks the Universe from giving us our true hearts desire! This also ALWAYS guilts the receiver!
Releasing expectations doesn’t mean you give other people permission to treat you thoughtlessly. It just means you check in with your motivations and give because you want to, and then ask for things directly when you want them. If you aren’t doing this, you are using manipulation tactics. And many of us will see that from a mile away!