Your grandmothers prayers are just now coming into fruition for you.
It’s true! But before I share the secret to gain freedom from codependency and 8 signs you are in a codependent relationship, let me just say this… you can and will recover!
Your Grandmothers who have elevated to the other side want you in mutually beneficial loving supportive relationships, friendships and business partnerships that are free from codependency! They don’t ever want to see you begging someone to love you! They don’t ever want to witness someone holding monetary gain, or your general needs above your head in order to “get” something from you.
Your grandmothers know how valuable your time and energy are. They are sending you messages from the divine in the form of numbers, symbols and signs to let you know that it is your sovereign right to protect your freedom and autonomy.
They want your business partnerships to be reciprocal. They want projects to be 75% complete prior to you shelling out more and more of your hard earned money!
They desire to see you in honest friendships, love relationships and business partnerships full of integrity. Friendships void of jealousy. Friendships based on having fun! Relationships that are built upon trust and integrity…. relationships that allow you to sleep like a baby because you can fully trust your partner.
Your grandmothers despise two-faced behavior. They cry from the clouds when they hear you speaking poorly about others.
Your grandmother’s desire to see you in reciprocal relationships where people understand the need for times of separation, solitude and sovereignty.
Yes! Your grandmothers prayers are coming into fruition for you right now! However, one must first clear any false belief systems or ancestral karma that has you believing you are not worthy! Worthy of love, friendships & partnerships that are gentle, kind, reciprocal, wanted, honest and void of codependency and jealousy of any kind!
Say goodbye to codependency! Say goodbye to push & pull relationships! Say goodbye to narcissistic people in your life who only want you around when you are no longer reaching for them. Or, even worse… Who only want you when you are not responding to their poor aloof uncaring facade or behavior.
8 Warning Signs you are in a Codependent Relationship
1. People Pleasing and denial of self care
It’s normal to want people to like you and we all want our loved ones to be happy, but there’s a difference between these normal tendencies and having to please people all the time. Especially when this pleasing costs you financially. People pleasers often feel like they can’t say no. Even when pleasing others substantially interferes with their own wants, desires, and needs.
2. Lack of personal Boundaries
Having boundaries simply means you respect the other person’s right to his or her own autonomy. People in both roles of a codependent relationship (even the taker), tend to have problems recognizing, respecting, and reinforcing boundaries. The over giver feels personally responsible for the other person’s happiness. People in codependent relationships tend to have a problem where one person doesn’t recognize boundaries and the other person doesn’t set healthy boundaries. Thus, one person is controlling and manipulative, and the other person is compliant and fails to assert their own will.
3. Low Self – worth
Almost 100% of the time, both parties in a codependent relationship have a poor self-esteem. One person needs the approval of the other, or at least needs to be of service to the other to have a sense of purpose. Often times you’ll see one partner feeling the need to choose a person “less than” themselves in order to make themselves feel better. The other person has low self-esteem due to having to depend on someone else to meet even their basic material needs. The dependent person is often controlling out of a basic sense of insecurity that the other person might leave.
Examples of this would be
- A man or woman with a partner half his/her age. The needy dependent partner hasn’t had any achievements therefore the male feels superior. The woman (having had little to no life experience and zero accomplishments), instantly sees the toxic dependent behavior as love. Its daddy.
- A woman or man choosing someone that needs their help in some way, shape or form. We see this a lot in work turn romance situations. A man knows a woman needs a job, a steady income so he or she may seek out the potential love interest services to attempt to spark a relationship. Often researching them online for weeks or months ahead of time.
- Ghosting and or gas lighting. This is a classic pattern in codependent relationships. The one taking financially will often test the over giver when they are not getting what they need.
4. Caretaking your partner
A major sign of codependency is when you feel like you must take care of a person. This typically comes from childhood, when the caretaker learns there may be terrible consequences from failing to take care of a partner’s needs. This is not done out of genuine love or even affection, but from a deep rooted shadow fear that something bad will happen if the dependent persons needs are not met.
Note: Most people can get by in life on their own. A huge sign of codependency is when one feels like things will go terribly wrong if you don’t take care of them. This is often a sign of codependency.
5. Reactivity and Jealousy
When your identity is based on pleasing others and you feel responsible for everyone’s wellbeing, you might find yourself reacting to situations rather than acting out of your own logic. You may find yourself being defensive or discover that you are internalizing criticism. This results in losing touch with your own desires, wants, and needs, which makes it harder to be proactive. After all, the over giver has invested so much. They may not feel they can let you go. It’s like a business transaction to them.
6. Lack of Self-Image
Both the caregiver and taker may have low self-esteems, or, no self-image at all. Often, the caregiver defines him/herself mainly in relation to the other person and may have no idea who he/she is without having that role of “bank” to play. This is why the caregiver is also dependent, even though he/she is the one taking care of practical matters and would probably be much better off without the other person.
The taker usually never fully develops a true calling in life because, why would you? If all your needs are met, you don’t need to work. Even worse, you never gain any of the life lessons needed to truly grow, learn, teach, and prosper in life.
7. One person is unable to survive without the other (or feels this way)
Of course, dependency plays a major role in codependency. Each person needs the other for something. One person needs her material needs to be met because addiction or other issues have impeded her autonomy. The other person needs validation and a sense of purpose from taking care of someone. In a way, it’s a tradeoff, but it also limits both people involved.
8. Relationship Stress
All of the above factors place a lot of stress on a relationship. When you can’t communicate or respect boundaries, you’re bound to have problems. The caretaker often feels a lot of stress about doing everything right, while the dependent person often feels insecure about being abandoned by the caretaker. Both are afraid to be alone, but neither is particularly happy. There may not be many fights since one partner is typically committed to keeping the other happy, but both are likely to feel stressed nonetheless.
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This was a hard-learned lesson for me but one that I earned as I ended a karmic ancestral pattern in my own life. I SEE you & applaud your resurrection! I want you to be FREE from codependency and narcissistic dead end relationships that keep you on the never ending hamster wheel!
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Cilantro kisses ~ Andrea