The sheer joy of transforming my life pales in comparison to the fulfillment I’ve come to experience sharing my tools with others, through my teachings on my two youtube channels Andrea Cox TV and on The Detox Intuitive. As you know I’ve coined the phrase “Our Issues Live in our tissues”! So it brings me great pleasure to share the three exercises that set my soul free from past life, childhood and past relationship trauma.
Recently I learned that a man I had been interacting with over the past year and a half… a man who had began reaching out to me via social media almost 8 years ago. A man who was friends with a previous partner who I spent years with had been lying and deceiving me and others.
On top of this situation, I had other frustrating – time consuming situations that may or may not be related (I would rather not say)… that were draining me of my energy, purity and vitality.
Basically I was being attacked spiritually and energetically by a group of people who were not out for my highest good. During this time I had an epiphany. I realized in that moment that this was a pattern in my life. A pattern of attracting not people who wanted to build others up by learning and growing with each other. But groups of un creative people who needed to leech off others because they themselves were not shining their own light.
The bottom line here was this… I simply could not make myself small enough to appease or make these groups of people feel comfortable around me. I was “too much”.
The following methods are just a few of the practices I use with my clients in order to heal them of their childhood, past life and old relationship wounds in order to co create with spirit! When we co-create with spirit we naturally invite more love, happiness and abundance into our lives!
1) Practice Forgiveness
If you can overcome the initial resistance to forgiving those who you feel have hurt you, you will set yourself FREE for life! Understand that every person on the planet is doing their best with the financial tools, one on one support of those around them, wisdom, experience and abilities they have, or they would do better.
Truly believing that the person did not have the direct intention to harm you in the manner they have will be the first step towards forgiveness.
In my case… I had to BELIVE that the man attempting to show up repeatedly in my life to engage me in a sexual romance while using my ideas in another partnership and lying to an already existing partner he had was all a lie. Yes, this was a difficult pill to swallow. But a pill I swallowed with grace.
2) Forgive Yourself
Forgiving myself and facing the fact that I had harmed another human who DID in fact love me was the most difficult step to take. I had to take personal responsibility and make apologies where they were needed. Even though I knew some relationships may not be salvaged, this provided me with peace within my heart that I was at least stepping up and making apologies where they were
3) Rewriting My Story
This was by far the most powerful exercise I’ve done to heal my childhood and past relationship trauma! Each of us have the ability to rewrite our past. Life isn’t what happens to us, it’s the interpretation that we create for each situation. If we look at life as happening FOR US and not TO US we gain our power back.
In my case, I needed to consciously go back and rewriting those stories in my mind so I could co- create with spirit and re-write my new life. Because this scenario had happened in my past years ago, I had to greatly examine why I blamed the one person in my life who was there for me. The one person who gave to me and never took from me in the area of creativity, business and ideas. In fact, the person I blamed was the one man in my life who always wanted me to succeed.
What traumatic events can you rewrite? Write down an event, and try to twist it into a positive by highlighting the lessons you learned and how it made you stronger. It may take a while for that new version to really be wired into your memories, but continue to repeat it when you remember and I promise you it will feel as natural as the first story you told yourself.
Meditation and Mindfulness
Connecting to myself daily through prayer, yoga and meditation has been the force in my healing journey. I am the greatest healer I know…we all are our greatest healers.
Life is about growth and evolution, and without obstacles to overcome we would never improve and would never know the strength that lies within the deepest part of our ancestral soul.
I no longer struggle with the fear of my written, creative work, ideas or even recipes (for food, drink and life) being stolen. I now look at those I saw as “leeches biting at my ankles” as my children. I embrace them, I send them love in my heart space…I forgive them for intercepting my personal life (even those who did this illegally). I now know that this experience will school them in a way of giving and receiving just as I was schooled when I let go of the love of my life for a facade. I now see clearly I simply could not grasp the sheer fact that another human could be so incredibly giving without expecting anything in return. Now that I’ve revamped the old list of past life, past relationship traumas with a new list of examples that prove I am unstoppable. This list includes the exact same situations, but entirely new perceptions of them. And through forgiveness and meditation I have given myself a new lease on life.
I release my children into the universe praying that one day, they too will learn the gift of reciprocity just like a loving partner and my beautiful mother both taught me. Today and every day moving forward…I lift them up.
I love you, please love yourself ~ Until tomorrow Andrea