I’ve always had the gift of being able to write. When I was in third grade we had an assignment to create a book about all of the things we loved in life. We were given one week to complete this task. Mine was finished within a few hours. When I turned it into my sweet fifty something year old teacher she cried. I had no idea what I had done wrong. She called my mother in the next day as she shared my book with the rest of the class. “Beautiful, just beautiful” she said. I remember her clearly saying, “Andrea has a gift of expressing herself…let it grow”.
While cleaning out my office yesterday I came across a box of letters I wrote to myself at age twenty-two. I was five years into a relationship that would end up lasting another five years. Yet I still felt alone.
I believe that during times when our faith is tested beyond what we can see an end to is where we grow the most in love and in strength. Times that challenge us are where we find within our souls our true calling in life and often that one person who we are to share our lives with is manifested. I was not writing the letter below only to myself…I was writing it energetically to my soul mate that I had yet to meet.
Why am I sharing this letter with you? It makes me feel sad that so many women come to me with “eating and weight challenges” that have nothing to do with food! Once I dig deeper I see the real issue…they feel “loveless”. They are not “filled up” with love from their partners. They feel ignored, invisible and often as if they cannot live up to what their partner needs or desires. They have been in a relationship for one year, two years, five years without a ring and sometimes without even a commitment from their partner. They lack romance and don’t know how to create it with their mate.
Because of this, I share with you this letter below! Let it be a reminder to never settle for someone who doesn’t recognize the heart he is holding when you stand before him. You deserve a man who reminds you every day of how much you mean to him. You my beautiful friend….YOU DESERVE EVERYTHING!
The letter is below has traveled with me from Ohio to California! It has ended two engagements and rightfully so. In simple terms, I know what I deserve and will never ever settle for less.Dear Andrea, You deserve SO much in this lifetime! The moon and the stars! Kisses that make you weak in the knees! You deserve to be held by arms you trust. You deserve romantic beach walks next to a beautiful blue ocean! You deserve to escape from Ohio winters! You deserve to be spoken to with respect always! You deserve extra cherries on your banana split! You deserve OPTIMAL health in every capacity! Energetically you deserve to bounce out of bed for a workout every morning after a quick love session with your soul mate! You deserve a relationship that isn’t easy. After all, nothing in life of any value will ever come without a struggle! You deserve to be able to sleep soundly through the night and rest your head without a worry or care because all of your needs and the needs of your loved ones have been met during the day. You deserve to be loved by a man who places you on a pedestal and treats you as if you are the only woman in the room at all times. You deserve passionate romantic love that takes your breath away and sweeps you off of your feet! You deserve to have someone who misses you the moment you walk out the door. Even when they know you will be returning soon. You deserve someone who calls you angel, princess and beautiful….daily:) You deserve a companion not a combat. Someone who challenges you daily but does not cause you any strife, worry or anguish. You deserve an honest man who never tells you anything but the truth. Because of this truth he shares, you share your honest heart with him fully. You deserve someone who forgives you when you aren’t feeling your best and may forget to give to him when this occurs, someone who desires to be happy over always being right. In the bedroom, the candlelight never burns out. You are his every desire and he is in your every thought whenever you get even the slightest hint of arousal! When you are around, he has an almost desperate need to feel your touch. He loves you in the deepest most powerful way and you embrace and allow for that love to enter you fully! What the two of you share is unmatched ~ a one of a kind passionate romantic love that takes your breath away and sweeps you off of your feet! Most importantly,you deserve to always feel that you are the only woman he desires. Never is there a doubt in your mind of how this man feels about you. You deserve to be loved by a man who places you on a pedestal and treats you as if you are the only woman in the room at all times. You deserve a man whose eyes are always fixed upon your beautiful face whenever you are around. A man who opens your car door when you get in and get out at your destination. In the bedroom, the candlelight never burns out. You are his every desire and he is in your every thought whenever you get even the slightest hint of arousal! When you are around, he has an almost desperate need to feel your touch. He loves you in the deepest most powerful way and you embrace and allow for that love to enter you fully! You deserve to feel safe knowing his every move in the business World and in everyday life is to build an even better, more stable life for the two of you! You deserve to look and to move forward in life never worrying that the walls the two of you have built together could possibly crumble. You deserve to feel loved, desired and to always feel like his arms are your “safe place”. You taste of pure honest forever love to him…and “forever” does exist when he looks at you. You deserve a man who leads, a Godly man who makes decisions when you are unable to. You deserve a man who knows he deserves a woman as magnificent as you by his side, on his arm and in his corner! A woman who encompasses everything he has ever desired in a soul mate and a wife! A man who knows you will give him everything he has ever dreamed of…and then much more. You deserve to be introduced to friends and family as “the one”. You deserve to be brought into a room with a sense of pride in hand that he is so blessed and humbled to be standing beside you. You deserve someone who always owns the fact that he is with you as you enter a room! A man who always pulls your chair out for you to sit down and who never needs to boast about your intimate activities to his friends or colleagues. After all, everyone can see in his eyes how incredibly lucky he is to be with you. He shines when next to you and you are not just is soul mate…you are his muse! YOU deserve the World and nothing short of it! Sit back and watch God bring all of this to you in his perfect time! Love me:)
Please remember this as you travel through this lifetime…. In life we settle on so many things. We settle for the movie we don’t really want to see because the popular movie is booked. We settle for a “quick coffee fix” in the morning instead of getting a good nights sleep or diving into a routine that will support our energy the next day. There are things in life that we “settle” for. Our life partner should not be one of them. Mediocre may be OK for some…but you…you and I both know that we deserve to have it ALL when it comes to love, romance and having our desires filled on every level!
Love you, Andrea